November is National Family Caregivers month. I love that the honorific falls within a month that is associated with so much thanks. When I look back on the time I was Millie's caregiver I am filled with gratitude. I am so thankful I was able to have the time to be with and love her. … Continue reading The caregiving experience: an Alzheimer’s Thanksgiving
I woke up so early this morning. Millie was on my mind. Today marks five years since she left us. I miss having her at the head of the table, the person at the heart of every decision, the reason we made infinite number of choices. Millie taught me: • how to make ice tea … Continue reading she taught me
For my entire life August 12th has been one of the most special days in our family. Even though Millie has been gone for almost five years I still can not imagine a year where I will not pause on her birthday and celebrate it. Millie did not turn 93 today, but for 93 years … Continue reading celebrating 93
I was so surprised to have to say goodbye to the holidays as I knew them while I was taking care of Millie. My grandmother was ALL ABOUT the holidays when I was growing up. She had the house decorated perfectly, had Christmas cards sent at just the right time, hosted the entire extended family … Continue reading Advice for Caregivers having an Alzheimer’s Christmas
This month I have been writing more about Alzheimer's and caregiving. I'm doing this because November is both National Alzheimer's Awareness Month and National Family Caregivers Month. The AARP's latest figures estimate that there are over 42 million caregivers in the US. I was one of them. I'm also writing about these topics because every … Continue reading and who will thank the caregiver?
Many times while I was Millie's caregiver did I wish for her to heal and evolve back into the brilliant and resilient woman I grew up knowing. I watched her study an object and hoped the words would come to her: the phrase, the meaning, the anything. Seeing her mind dim and fade will always … Continue reading Parenting vs Caregiving
Welcome to a blog carnival featuring some of the blogosphere’s experts on caregiving. WeGiveaCare.org wil be highlighting the work of 8 women who write about what it feels like to be a primary caregiver to someone who depends on you -- whether you’re on vacation, it’s a holiday, it’s an emergency at three in the … Continue reading I Gave a Care. I was a caregiver.
There is a new ad promoting awareness for caregiver's fatigue. The first two times I watched the ad I cried. Oh man did it hit home. Seriously. This ad was created by AARP and today they are having a chat on twitter about caregivers. https://twitter.com/AARPFamily/status/235757642402897920 I am not working for AARP or involved with the … Continue reading You never let me be silent. Thank you.
Tomorrow Millie would have been ninety-one. The moment I see the word "August" I begun to think of her, feel her, smell faint wafts of White Linen perfume every where I go. I am aware of things that she would find amusing - how often I reheat my coffee and then never get around to … Continue reading Five Easy Ways to Ease Into Being a Caregiver to a Grandparent
I feel the energy of my Grandmother all the time. I see her in almost every older woman I encounter. Because of that I end up thinking of Alzheimer's or dementia or elder care several times a day. I was taught to speak and understand a specific language and now I have the ability to hear … Continue reading 8 simple ways to be compassionate