she taught me

How I remember my Grandmother

I woke up so early this morning. Millie was on my mind. Today marks five years since she left us. I miss having her at the head of the table, the person at the heart of every decision, the reason we made infinite number of choices. Millie taught me: • how to make ice tea • how to ...

celebrating 93

Celebrating 93

For my entire life August 12th has been one of the most special days in our family. Even though Millie has been gone for almost five years I still can not imagine a year where I will not pause on her birthday and celebrate it. Millie did not turn 93 today, but for 93 years people ...

Advice for Caregivers having an Alzheimer’s Christmas

Millie Christmas

I was so surprised to have to say goodbye to the holidays as I knew them while I was taking care of Millie. My grandmother was ALL ABOUT the holidays when I was growing up. She had the house decorated perfectly, had Christmas cards sent at just the right time, hosted the entire extended family ...

and who will thank the caregiver?

thanks project

This month I have been writing more about Alzheimer's and caregiving. I'm doing this because November is both National Alzheimer's Awareness Month and National Family Caregivers Month. The AARP's latest figures estimate that there are over 42 million caregivers in the US. I was one of them. I'm also writing about these topics because every time ...

Parenting vs Caregiving

caregiving vs parenting

Many times while I was Millie's caregiver did I wish for her to heal and evolve back into the brilliant and resilient woman I grew up knowing.  I watched her study an object and hoped the words would come to her: the phrase, the meaning, the anything. Seeing her mind dim and fade will always ...