Plaidbryo Cycle

by on October 8, 2012

day of FETSaturday’s transfer was so smooth. The only drama of the day was my scrambling to find someone to watch W so that Mom could be with me for the procedure. I am beyond thankful that Cecily’s husband, Charlie, was able to come over for a playdate. W was positively THRILLED to have someone come play trucks and build monster legos.

I was thrilled to have Mom with me.

I started drinking water at 10am for my 10:30 transfer. During my Spring transfer I happily learned that because things had been rearranged during my C-Section I didn’t need to have a super full bladder for a transfer. It makes a massive difference to have that bit of discomfort eliminated. I consider myself very lucky.

The embryologist talked with me while the nurse set up the room. She had thawed five ‘two day’ embryos. Friday all five were still growing. By Saturday morning three had stopped growing and two had become “great looking” morulas. A morula is a 4 day embryo, typically a day before becoming a blastocyst.

I was relieved to have two embryos to transfer, but also relieved that the ones that stopped growing had done so before transfer.

The embryologist was one of those Prairie Dawn types so it was easy to get swept up in her optimism and enthusiasm. She handed me a photo of the embryos that they were about to transfer and I smiled down at them: my hope.

I knew instantly that I needed to give this cycle a name, something positive to tape over the hell of the zombryo cycle. What do I love most of all? Plaid. So I am smoooshing all love and good vibes into this cycle and dubbing it the Plaidbryo Cycle.

1/2 birthday cakeWhen the doctor walked in to perform the transfer I smiled: she was the same doctor that had performed my transfer that yielded W. I told her this and explained that Saturday W was exactly 3 and a half. “Let’s do that again”, and she patted my knees and we began.

It is amazing that we live in an age where a room full of women can help another woman become pregnant. In the procedure room there was Mom, squeezing my hand and wiping away my emotional tears, the embryologist, two nurses, and the doctor. There was so much tenderness and kindness in the room.

When the transfer was done everyone but Mom left the room. She held my hand and we dared to day-dream out loud.

Forty minutes later we were in the car to go pick up W. W and Mom then dropped me off at a local community acupuncture center. While I relaxed with needles all over my body W and Mom had adventures riding trolleys and playing in a nearby playground.

I was then on bed rest for the rest of the weekend (and am rest today as well). Mom was amazing bringing me snacks and my mid-day medications. W was also very attentive to me. I explained to him, the same as I did in the Spring, that I had been to the baby doctor office, the same office where I had gone to make him. I pulled out a photo of the morulas and said that they were the seeds that the doctor had put inside of me and if we were lucky one of those seeds would grow into a baby. Because of the zombryo cycle he remembers that it doesn’t always work. And it is all matter of fact.

Yesterday he wanted to know if I had a photo of his baby seeds and I was able to show him the 3 day embryos from his cycle.

I honestly can not explain how special it is to be able to share this stuff with W. It is how we make a family.

Tomorrow I go back to the clinic for blood work, ultrasound, and a lupron boost shot.

Today I am 2dp4dt / 6dpo

{ 47 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Holly October 8, 2012 at 10:38 am

Hooray for the Plaidbryo cycle! Been thinking about you ALL WEEKEND!

Thanks for writing all about it, it takes me back to the days of the start of Adam’s little life. Tenderness and kindness-I like that, it is perfect.

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2 Casey October 8, 2012 at 10:52 am

“Let’s do that again.” OMG. YES. LET’S! (Crying over here!)

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3 Sarah October 8, 2012 at 10:57 am

Yay!! Good luck!

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4 Dresden October 8, 2012 at 2:13 pm

Thank you, Sarah.
(I thought about you while at community acu!!)

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5 katy October 8, 2012 at 11:12 am

Sounds like you had a perfect experience to lead to success!! Sending positive vibes your way!!!

xoxo!!

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6 HereWeGoAJen October 8, 2012 at 11:21 am

Tell your baby seeds that I will buy them the plaid diapers if they stick around. You know that I am very pro-bribery.

W made me cry with his sweetness.

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7 Dresden October 8, 2012 at 2:15 pm

I can not wait to see you soon. Which reminds me…um…we should coordinate something!

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8 Natalie October 8, 2012 at 11:25 am

Good luck! I’m thinking about you!

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9 Midlife Singlemum October 8, 2012 at 11:26 am

Good luck. Don’t forget to buy a teddy bear for the new baby, or buy two even in case it’s twins.

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10 Dresden October 8, 2012 at 2:13 pm

don’t EVEN go there!

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11 tonya cinnamon October 8, 2012 at 12:02 pm

awesome luck!!!!!!!!!<3

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12 Shannon October 8, 2012 at 12:12 pm

I’m sending happy plaid thoughts your way! You are so lucky to have such a wonderful support system.

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13 Dresden October 8, 2012 at 2:15 pm

I really am. It takes a village, a Mom, an internet… :)

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14 Beginning From The Start October 8, 2012 at 12:14 pm

Fingers crossed that you’ll need plaid onesies soon!

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15 Beginning From The Start October 8, 2012 at 12:16 pm

Err, please delete my earlier comment. Didn’t mean to publish my actual name.

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16 Dresden October 8, 2012 at 1:27 pm

Edited :)

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17 Beginning From The Start October 8, 2012 at 1:55 pm

Thank you! I really hope that everything works out– maybe twice!

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18 Jo-Ann October 8, 2012 at 12:22 pm

Plaidbreyo…Love it….thinking of you with love

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19 Kymberli aka JW Moxie October 8, 2012 at 12:25 pm

The waves I’m sending are plaid, plaid, PLAID! I’m geeked that I get to give plaid love in person this week. Love you, love W, love Lolly, just love all around.

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20 Dresden October 8, 2012 at 2:14 pm

I CAN NOT WAIT TO SEE YOU ZOMG!!!!

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21 tbean October 8, 2012 at 12:27 pm

What a sweet story. It pulled me out of my lurkerdom to say that I am pulling for you! W. will be a terrific big brother!

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22 Dresden October 8, 2012 at 2:16 pm

happy to see you here again. (and happy to know you lurk) :)

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23 Lisa October 8, 2012 at 1:22 pm

Good luck!! I hope you get very good news in a couple weeks! :)

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24 Dresden October 8, 2012 at 2:16 pm

Thank you. I am thinking of you guys! Any updates?

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25 MeAndBaby October 8, 2012 at 1:31 pm

Thanks for sharing. Tearing up – “it is how we make a family”. Love.

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26 Queenie October 8, 2012 at 3:37 pm

Thinking good thoughts for you!!!!

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27 Abby October 8, 2012 at 7:41 pm

I love that you share with W! I would not have thought that folks did that, given that it’s not a sure thing, but it’s lovely.

Fingers crossed!

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28 jessie October 8, 2012 at 8:42 pm

So much luck!

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29 Amy October 8, 2012 at 8:49 pm

Ohhhh..I’m so super excited for you. My little guy was born right around W, and my second attempt at another little one did not pan out well, just as your did not. However, my third attempt has lead me and my husbdand to be expecting another little guy in February :) AND, for me, as well, it was the same Doctor who implanted my first, that led to my current pregnancy…..so my vibes for you are beyond POSITIVE :) xoxo

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30 Katie October 8, 2012 at 9:22 pm

Sounds perfect…will be keeping fingers and toes crossed up here in Massachusetts for you!

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31 Andrea October 8, 2012 at 9:28 pm

I too am coming out of lurkdom to tell you that I am with you on this journey, sending all the positive thoughts your way.

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32 a October 8, 2012 at 10:00 pm

Much luck with Plaidbryo!

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33 Baby Smiling In Back Seat October 8, 2012 at 11:41 pm

I haven’t shown Burrito and Tamale any photos of them as blastocysts/fetuses, but I’m really excited to show them eventually — one of the few upsides of infertility is that we get to show the children the whole process of how they became them.

Go go go plaidbryo!

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34 StacieT October 9, 2012 at 1:30 am

Sending lots of positive energy your way. Go Plaidbryo!

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35 EEH October 9, 2012 at 10:13 am

Woo hoo! So happy for you all! I am glad that special day was so full of love and support. Good thoughts headed your way! <3

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36 alison October 9, 2012 at 12:09 pm

Luck, luck, luck!

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37 magpie October 9, 2012 at 12:41 pm

Here’s hoping! (And even some baby dust!)

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38 Stalking Sarah October 9, 2012 at 12:46 pm

It’s so nice to hear about other people talking to their kids about how kids get made (in ways besides mom + dad = baby). I’m a someday lesbian mom and stories like this really help create a world where kids understand that babies happen lots of different ways. I bought this book to help our future kids — thought perhaps you would like it for W and Future Baby Plaid!

http://www.what-makes-a-baby.com/

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39 Mutant Supermodel October 9, 2012 at 2:50 pm

Yayyyyyyyyyyy! Go plaid go!!

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40 Liz Raptis Picco October 9, 2012 at 5:08 pm

Am so happy you have so much support, kindness and love throughout this process! I’m cheering you on.

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41 bachelormum October 9, 2012 at 8:45 pm

I loved the comment about a room full of women helping you to become pregant!

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42 Kate October 10, 2012 at 1:11 am

I love living during this time. A group of women all creating life.

Can I return to GDP status yet? I promise to wear plaid.

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43 battynurse October 10, 2012 at 3:35 am

Many hopeful thoughts for you.

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44 stephanie anderson October 10, 2012 at 12:26 pm

Rock it girl. Sending good thoughts your way!

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45 Faith October 10, 2012 at 7:12 pm

Yay! Sending lots of positive and happy thoughts. And I even have plaid rainboots, and I’ll think of plaidbryo every time I wear them. <3

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46 Keiko October 12, 2012 at 11:38 am

““Let’s do that again”, and she patted my knees and we began.”

OMG – and, sobbing. Dresden, this is so beautiful. So, so beautiful, all of this. My heart is bursting for you right now! Sending you every ounce of love and sticky vibes and burrowing and growing thoughts I can right now!!

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47 Denver Laura October 19, 2012 at 10:49 am

I was thinking along the same lines of women helping women get pregnant after my IUIs. Two female nurses assisted. No males were even in the room. Heck, my husband left the clinic 3 hours prior. What was surreal was I called my mom after it was all over. Like, I’m pretty sure my brother didn’t call my mom after he knocked up his wife naturally. GL on the plaidbryo.

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