Comments on: thwack http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/11/30/thwack/ Sat, 20 Mar 2010 17:26:47 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Salome http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/11/30/thwack/comment-page-1/#comment-51550 Salome Sun, 06 Dec 2009 14:42:48 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2183#comment-51550 You're not a bad parent at all. A bad parent would hand W. to you mom and go out clubbing for a few days. Or weeks. You're taking care of business in a responsible way. At some point, this crap will all be over and you'll have new crap to deal with. it's just life. I've found that gratitude helps immensely in rough times. You have the baby that you thought you;d never have. You have your mom. You're young and healthy. And so on. Things could be much, much worse. You’re not a bad parent at all. A bad parent would hand W. to you mom and go out clubbing for a few days. Or weeks.
You’re taking care of business in a responsible way. At some point, this crap will all be over and you’ll have new crap to deal with. it’s just life.
I’ve found that gratitude helps immensely in rough times. You have the baby that you thought you;d never have. You have your mom. You’re young and healthy. And so on. Things could be much, much worse.

]]> By: Carrie http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/11/30/thwack/comment-page-1/#comment-51401 Carrie Wed, 02 Dec 2009 03:21:58 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2183#comment-51401 5 hours?!!! That is absolutely insane. Smacking you in the face, sorry you needed it. Ok, now back to you remember how great you really are. 5 hours?!!! That is absolutely insane.

Smacking you in the face, sorry you needed it. Ok, now back to you remember how great you really are.

]]> By: gypsygrrl http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/11/30/thwack/comment-page-1/#comment-51400 gypsygrrl Wed, 02 Dec 2009 03:20:07 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2183#comment-51400 i am sending a hearty THWAK to that recorder thats muttering the "bad parent" stuff into your head...and then i am sending BIG HUGS and LOVE to YOU (and W and Mother, of course) you are doing the best you can and YOU ARE A GOOD MOM!!! you are getting him what he needs even if it means enduring the people who wont look UP or smile. THAT is a good mom ~ one who doesnt give up :) oh. and i love you! i am sending a hearty THWAK to that recorder thats muttering the “bad parent” stuff into your head…and then i am sending BIG HUGS and LOVE to YOU (and W and Mother, of course)

you are doing the best you can and YOU ARE A GOOD MOM!!! you are getting him what he needs even if it means enduring the people who wont look UP or smile. THAT is a good mom ~ one who doesnt give up :)

oh. and i love you!

]]> By: Barb http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/11/30/thwack/comment-page-1/#comment-51392 Barb Wed, 02 Dec 2009 00:02:36 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2183#comment-51392 I feel guilty and like I have bad parent chatter already for all kinds of things and mine isn't even BORN yet! ;P Don't feel alone. I feel guilty and like I have bad parent chatter already for all kinds of things and mine isn’t even BORN yet! ;P Don’t feel alone.

]]> By: mrs spock http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/11/30/thwack/comment-page-1/#comment-51388 mrs spock Tue, 01 Dec 2009 23:13:18 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2183#comment-51388 You are not a bad parent. We are a bad society for not recognizing that we all belong to each other, and being able to maintain the health of ourselves and our children should not be tied to elusive jobs. You are not a bad parent. We are a bad society for not recognizing that we all belong to each other, and being able to maintain the health of ourselves and our children should not be tied to elusive jobs.

]]> By: Michell http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/11/30/thwack/comment-page-1/#comment-51377 Michell Tue, 01 Dec 2009 16:41:55 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2183#comment-51377 That all sounds very stressful. I hope things work out fine and he has the needed coverage. Also hoping that things work out in the job department for mom and that things start to look much better soon. That all sounds very stressful. I hope things work out fine and he has the needed coverage. Also hoping that things work out in the job department for mom and that things start to look much better soon.

]]> By: alison http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/11/30/thwack/comment-page-1/#comment-51376 alison Tue, 01 Dec 2009 16:35:13 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2183#comment-51376 You are his advocate and he's lucky to have you. Good days are coming my dear. Wishing I could give send you some bottled up hugs then you could just take one out whenever you needed. I hate saying hang in there because it sounds so... cliche or cop-out-y or something. But I just know that if you hang in there, we'll help keep you afloat and amazing things will come your way. You're not a bad parent. Never ever ever. You are his advocate and he’s lucky to have you. Good days are coming my dear. Wishing I could give send you some bottled up hugs then you could just take one out whenever you needed. I hate saying hang in there because it sounds so… cliche or cop-out-y or something. But I just know that if you hang in there, we’ll help keep you afloat and amazing things will come your way.

You’re not a bad parent. Never ever ever.

]]> By: Sarah http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/11/30/thwack/comment-page-1/#comment-51375 Sarah Tue, 01 Dec 2009 16:13:38 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2183#comment-51375 Hey, at least you spent 5 hours trying to sort it out! That means you are a thoughful, careful, loving parent. (((hugs))) Hey, at least you spent 5 hours trying to sort it out! That means you are a thoughful, careful, loving parent.
(((hugs)))

]]> By: Man-annie Oakley http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/11/30/thwack/comment-page-1/#comment-51374 Man-annie Oakley Tue, 01 Dec 2009 16:02:04 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2183#comment-51374 Oh darlin, you are such a good momma, and the system totally sucks. I felt like a horrible parent for the past several years because my W. was uninsured. We absolutely COULD NOT afford private health insurance and yet somehow made too much (by whose standards we could never figure out) to be on CHIP. The instant they raised the income requirement we were all over it and he is now fully covered. I have not had health insurance since W. was 2. Cale has been on different private insurers through his work in the healthcare field, but we needed the take home pay and couldn't afford the extreme premiums to add W. and I to the plans. You gave up a career and devoted your life to taking care of your Grandmother who needed you for several years, in return you have been royally screwed by not only the government, but sometimes by the Universe it seems. Throughout it all you have managed to keep your head held high, you have managed to advocate for the people closest to you, you have managed to share a most inspiring story, you have been able to come through some of life's darkest moments with a chuckle, and you have inspired the love and admiration of so many. Although this moment is scary and vast in the unknown - I know that you will all pull through this bigger and better than before. There is no way a single one of us would EVER let you go homeless, hungry or anything else. You are so loved. Oh darlin, you are such a good momma, and the system totally sucks. I felt like a horrible parent for the past several years because my W. was uninsured. We absolutely COULD NOT afford private health insurance and yet somehow made too much (by whose standards we could never figure out) to be on CHIP. The instant they raised the income requirement we were all over it and he is now fully covered. I have not had health insurance since W. was 2. Cale has been on different private insurers through his work in the healthcare field, but we needed the take home pay and couldn’t afford the extreme premiums to add W. and I to the plans.

You gave up a career and devoted your life to taking care of your Grandmother who needed you for several years, in return you have been royally screwed by not only the government, but sometimes by the Universe it seems. Throughout it all you have managed to keep your head held high, you have managed to advocate for the people closest to you, you have managed to share a most inspiring story, you have been able to come through some of life’s darkest moments with a chuckle, and you have inspired the love and admiration of so many. Although this moment is scary and vast in the unknown – I know that you will all pull through this bigger and better than before. There is no way a single one of us would EVER let you go homeless, hungry or anything else. You are so loved.

]]> By: Annacyclopedia http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/11/30/thwack/comment-page-1/#comment-51373 Annacyclopedia Tue, 01 Dec 2009 15:47:43 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2183#comment-51373 Sweetie, you are one of the best parents I "know". You are always doing your best for your boy and his life has been filled with so much love since the day he arrived and even before. You are a champion mother - it's the system that is wrong, wrong, wrong. Hoping you can keep that in your mind and take it easy on yourself. Sweetie, you are one of the best parents I “know”. You are always doing your best for your boy and his life has been filled with so much love since the day he arrived and even before. You are a champion mother – it’s the system that is wrong, wrong, wrong. Hoping you can keep that in your mind and take it easy on yourself.

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