Comments on: To do List Tuesday http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/10/27/to-do-list-tuesday/ Mon, 21 May 2012 20:50:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: How Long to Cry It Out (CIO) | Baby Sleep Help | Toddler Sleep Help | Custom Sleep Help - Pick Nick's Brain http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/10/27/to-do-list-tuesday/#comment-50327 How Long to Cry It Out (CIO) | Baby Sleep Help | Toddler Sleep Help | Custom Sleep Help - Pick Nick's Brain Tue, 03 Nov 2009 12:02:00 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2068#comment-50327 [...] way to approach “sleep training”. If you’re doing cry-it-out, it might take you a few nights or a couple of weeks, but please expect things to pop up and change on you, because they will. Just [...] [...] way to approach “sleep training”. If you’re doing cry-it-out, it might take you a few nights or a couple of weeks, but please expect things to pop up and change on you, because they will. Just [...]

]]> By: Clara http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/10/27/to-do-list-tuesday/#comment-50172 Clara Thu, 29 Oct 2009 21:15:56 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2068#comment-50172 Good luck with the routine and schedule. It seems like you've got the right idea by finding a routine that seems most closely aligned with what W is already doing. We put our baby on a routine at 6wks - I watched him for a couple of days and then intervened to adjust things a little bit. It is amazing to have a more predictable day. He still woke up once or twice a night and then I sleep trained him at 3mths (about 4 weeks ago) and he has slept straight through the night (7pm - 7am) since. According to his paedatrician (& the midwife who delivered him and based on the research I did), most babies can sleep a 6-8hour stretch without needing a feed once they are over 12lbs. I assume W is over 12lbs so you should feel confident that you are not leaving him hungry. Good luck Good luck with the routine and schedule. It seems like you’ve got the right idea by finding a routine that seems most closely aligned with what W is already doing.
We put our baby on a routine at 6wks – I watched him for a couple of days and then intervened to adjust things a little bit. It is amazing to have a more predictable day. He still woke up once or twice a night and then I sleep trained him at 3mths (about 4 weeks ago) and he has slept straight through the night (7pm – 7am) since.
According to his paedatrician (& the midwife who delivered him and based on the research I did), most babies can sleep a 6-8hour stretch without needing a feed once they are over 12lbs.

I assume W is over 12lbs so you should feel confident that you are not leaving him hungry.

Good luck

]]> By: Kristin http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/10/27/to-do-list-tuesday/#comment-50169 Kristin Thu, 29 Oct 2009 17:07:40 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2068#comment-50169 Cali--sleep training is hard. I GET what you wrote about feeling that it is cruel in some way, but necessary. We did a mix and match approach to it as well and its seeming to work. Re: W laughs. I have to tell you that when I played it, my V (13 months) came running into the room. "Where's the baby?" she asked with her eyes. Then she laughed, laughed, laughed. W and V laughing together. So sweet! Cali–sleep training is hard. I GET what you wrote about feeling that it is cruel in some way, but necessary. We did a mix and match approach to it as well and its seeming to work.

Re: W laughs. I have to tell you that when I played it, my V (13 months) came running into the room. “Where’s the baby?” she asked with her eyes. Then she laughed, laughed, laughed. W and V laughing together. So sweet!

]]> By: Kymberli http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/10/27/to-do-list-tuesday/#comment-50161 Kymberli Thu, 29 Oct 2009 02:35:21 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2068#comment-50161 My heart just totally melted with W's laughs. My heart just totally melted with W’s laughs.

]]> By: Briar http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/10/27/to-do-list-tuesday/#comment-50143 Briar Wed, 28 Oct 2009 14:37:25 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2068#comment-50143 My mother's theory of parenting was that we should do it as dogs and cats do - you raise them the best you can and as soon as they can do it by themselves, you push them out of the nest and make them do it alone. I think we sometimes needlessly prolong the dependence period because there is something smooshy and lovely about it. I include myself in this on sleep and many, many other issues. But I have the teenager, a constant reminder that the actual goal is to LET THEM GROW UP and have a life of their own. And we have to help them learn all the things they need to know to live that life! Amazing! I think sleep was totally the first arena in which I had to face that realization, too, and that is one of the reasons it is so emotional. It's lovely to be the one helping them and caring for their every need. But ultimately it MUST be on them to care for themselves. Your other commenters probably think I am a total bitch but whatever. You totally know what I mean. My mother’s theory of parenting was that we should do it as dogs and cats do – you raise them the best you can and as soon as they can do it by themselves, you push them out of the nest and make them do it alone. I think we sometimes needlessly prolong the dependence period because there is something smooshy and lovely about it. I include myself in this on sleep and many, many other issues. But I have the teenager, a constant reminder that the actual goal is to LET THEM GROW UP and have a life of their own. And we have to help them learn all the things they need to know to live that life! Amazing! I think sleep was totally the first arena in which I had to face that realization, too, and that is one of the reasons it is so emotional. It’s lovely to be the one helping them and caring for their every need. But ultimately it MUST be on them to care for themselves. Your other commenters probably think I am a total bitch but whatever. You totally know what I mean.

]]> By: Michell http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/10/27/to-do-list-tuesday/#comment-50131 Michell Wed, 28 Oct 2009 02:56:09 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2068#comment-50131 I hear you on todo lists. I keep thinking "next week will be normal without so much to do in the morning." So far not happening. Good luck with the sleep training. I hope it goes reasonably well. I hear you on todo lists. I keep thinking “next week will be normal without so much to do in the morning.” So far not happening.
Good luck with the sleep training. I hope it goes reasonably well.

]]> By: Michelle http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/10/27/to-do-list-tuesday/#comment-50130 Michelle Wed, 28 Oct 2009 02:42:03 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2068#comment-50130 FWIW - I hated sleep training, too. (Who likes it, really?) What helped me was the realization that my efforts to soothe were actually keeping her awake. We would spend as long soothing to sleep as the nap would last, and when she would fall asleep, she was an overtired mess, and I wasn't much better. That said, it was never, ever easy for me to listen to her cry. I would try to get to a part of the house where I couldn't hear her and turn the volume way down on the monitor. Another thing to keep in mind (and it sounds like this is already part of your calculus, but it's always a good reminder for us moms) is that W has needs, but so do you, and you can only meet his if yours are being met sometimes, too. FWIW – I hated sleep training, too. (Who likes it, really?) What helped me was the realization that my efforts to soothe were actually keeping her awake. We would spend as long soothing to sleep as the nap would last, and when she would fall asleep, she was an overtired mess, and I wasn’t much better. That said, it was never, ever easy for me to listen to her cry. I would try to get to a part of the house where I couldn’t hear her and turn the volume way down on the monitor. Another thing to keep in mind (and it sounds like this is already part of your calculus, but it’s always a good reminder for us moms) is that W has needs, but so do you, and you can only meet his if yours are being met sometimes, too.

]]> By: Io http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/10/27/to-do-list-tuesday/#comment-50128 Io Wed, 28 Oct 2009 02:13:31 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2068#comment-50128 Damn, reading about sleep made m e sleepy. You apparently have me trained, because I have suddenly become too tired to leave a good comment. But I hope the boy learns to sleep. Yes, something like that... my eyes are closing... Damn, reading about sleep made m e sleepy. You apparently have me trained, because I have suddenly become too tired to leave a good comment. But I hope the boy learns to sleep. Yes, something like that… my eyes are closing…

]]> By: Kristin http://creatingmotherhood.com/2009/10/27/to-do-list-tuesday/#comment-50126 Kristin Wed, 28 Oct 2009 01:20:23 +0000 http://creatingmotherhood.com/?p=2068#comment-50126 That laugh is fabulous and I HATED sleep training...big time. You have my sympathy. That laugh is fabulous and I HATED sleep training…big time. You have my sympathy.

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