Comments on: The hardest thing to accept

By: perchancetodream

perchancetodream — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 17:26:19 +0000

I’m commenting on this post as part of blogger bingo and sought it out deliberately. The rolls that pets play in our lives in undeniable. Also, it’s never failed to freak me out – honestly – how many people I know have lost a pet (in some manner) around the time that they’ve had a child. It’s that when one door open, another closes, I guess.

I actually had that bottom photo in mind when we got our newest kitten. She looks nothing like your kitty but there is a similar spirit and look in her eyes…..

By: Phoebe

Phoebe — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 16:02:52 +0000

My friends had this very same thing happen to them. It was a cat that I had given them years previous. When their baby was born, their cat took off. They found the cat once, put a microchip in it’s ear, but she took off again.

I’m sure your kitty has found another home. I don’t understand what drives cats to run away when babies arrive.

By: Kristin

Kristin — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 05:12:50 +0000

Remember Cleo, who “left” (aka: was eaten by a coyote) the day our baby came home?

My husband still insists that she staged her demise, so that she could go help another couple through infertility.

Just a thought….that BG was one smart cookie.

By: KLTTX

KLTTX — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 15:16:06 +0000

So sorry about BG. We had a cat that got lost once and we saw him months later hanging out in front of another house in our neighborhood. Turns out someone took him in and were taking very good care of him. As far as we know, he lived the rest of his very long life with them. I hope BG had the same fate.

By: PiquantMolly

PiquantMolly — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 01:58:11 +0000

So sorry she hasn’t returned. I can’t imagine losing one of my babies.

I’m hoping she is happy now, wherever she is.

By: Susan

Susan — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 20:59:34 +0000

I’m so sorry. I’m also pretty sure that she’s with another family, and as hard as it is to imagine, that she’s almost as happy as she was with you.

*sniff

By: Salome

Salome — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 16:52:38 +0000

I’m sorry she’s still missing. I really don’t think W. drove her away. Cats being curious creatures I’d expect her to want to check out the new addition to the household rather than to simply book.
My first cat was a gorgeous orange Maine coon with a big fluffy tail and a white bib. I was four when my parents adopted him at an inn in Maine. The owners of the place said the cat just appeared one day and started hanging around. He had no collar but he was obviously someone’s pampered pet. They checked around, put up posters but nobody claimed him. With the permission of the owners of the inn we took him home and he lived with us for ten years until his death from kidney failure.
I think BG is with another family now is an being treated very well. I don’t think she left because she was angry at you or afraid of the baby, I think she just got interested in someone else and decided to hang out with them for awhile. Sometimes animals reappear long after their owners have given them up. Sometimes they don’t.
My mom told me that cats have a built in awareness when they’re about to die and they prefer to go off alone when they sense the time has come, however your cat didn’t appear to be sick. It’s very mysterious and I know you must be sick with worry.

By: Molly

Molly — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 09:39:54 +0000

I’ve been following your blog since just before your adorable son was born and just before your cat went missing. I am so sorry. I have three cats and I would be heartsick if one went missing.

I too have a feeling she is somewhere with someone who needs her. My first cat moved in with me from (I found out 6 months later) halfway down my street. It was an awful time for me and she was the only bright spot. I thought she was a sray and asked around – but no one recognised her. Six months later a whole series of odd coincidences led me to meeting her other owner.
Five years on and she is 17 now and still with me. I am still so grateful to the universe for keading her to me. The neighbour who had owned her for the first 12 years of her life was very philosophical (not sure I could be!).

I really don’t think it was W that drove her away. I think it was that she knew you had him now and you were going be fine and she felt she could go. I bet she is with someone in pain right know and supporting them through their troubles – just like she did for you. And that someone might just be in as much darkness as I was…

Molly

PS I am about to start IVF in a month or two with a donor in hopes of being blessed with a bub… And I have never ever posted on a blog but something told me I had to tell you this story…

By: meg

meg — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 04:37:14 +0000

Man… I am so so sorry. At least you are looking at this in the positive manner… but I am so so sorry you are having to go through this. I cried while reading this post.