Well there is no way to sugar coat the very bad. It is, after all, Very Bad. So here goes: This afternoon Mother was called in to a meeting and told that she is now a part of the “economic reduction movement” at her place of employment. Translation: she is now sans job. It is so shocking, so surprising, so not at ALL what she had been led to expect. She is devastated and crushed. It is brutal.
I am in denial.
I am also hugely pissed off at her now former place of employment. A “family company” that totally took a shit on our family at the very worst of times. I am annoyed that her boss wasn’t even in the room when it happened. I am enraged that she was given no hint of a notice that this could happen, and that she was actually falsely led to believe that her job was secure.
I don’t know how, but somehow we will manage. I physically hurt for the sadness that Mother is sitting in right now. She has shouldered the full burden of this family and I know that she is caving in with defeat right now.
But hey, at least this means that we don’t have to stay in Florida…sigh. Got good mojo to spare? Please beam it towards Mother. We are just numb with shock and fear.
(Warning: The very Good is about Snork)
I thought about doing a Snork update on a different post, but that seems wrong. The Universe dealt us a day where Mother had job shit, I had a 32 week ultrasound, and we toured a nursing home for GM. It feels like all three of us have our own personal tornadoes going on and as Mother aptly pointed out on the long drive to the fancy scan place, we are having a “perfect storm”.
So the Snork? He has grown! He is in the 80% percentile and measuring just over 2 weeks ahead. Except for his head. Like Alison I seem to have a kid with a mighty large noggin. Our boys are totally going to kick ass on Jeopardy. Snork’s head is measuring at 36 weeks. He is face down and both of his feet are up over his head. Oh & his foot? 3 inches Weight? Estimated at 5lb 2oz. Yikes.
New images are up at the Snork Files page.
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Oh no. I’m so sorry for you rmom. Did she get a good layoff package at least? If so, maybe she’s going to be able to help a lot more with GM and snork in a few weeks. At least the timing is good? (gotta look at any silver lining, eh?)
Fantabulous at the growth! I too had a baby with a ginormous head. We were in such a low percentile and then his noggin’ grew, throwing the curve off and suddenly we were in 80-90% when the previous measurements had us at 30%. At 36weeks, he was measuring a 41w head. Um, ouch? And I can say that for sure. OUCH. But, alas, it’s over and I adore his big head.
I am so very sorry to hear your mother was laid off, and hope she got a good severance package.
I am equally happy to hear how well Snork is doing!
That just settles it — it’s time to sell the movie rights to your life!
I’ll be thinking and hoping for you with all my heart.
Oh wow what a day. I am so sorry to hear about your mom’s job….especially at this time. Very happy to hear that Snork is doing well. Hang in there.
Both of my kids have large heads…lol….their bodies will eventually catch up. (i hope…lol) Snork is beautiful. I absolutely love those looking straight at the camera pictures. And the little baby feet. I can’t stand the cuteness.
I’m so sorry for all your family has gone through in the past few weeks. I think its time for the universe to give you guys a break so I am believing that things can only get better from here on.
I’m so sorry for your mum, Cali. These are tough times indeed.
But, thrilled to see snork’s gorgeous face on that ultrasound.
Yuck. In Ca you can get severence and unemployment, is that true in FL.
Wonderful news about Snork!
I hope this lay off becomes the best thing that ever happened some day – sooner than later, of course. Until then, hang in there!
Oh no! Wow. Personal tornadoes indeed … Sending all kinds of positive good luck vibes in your family’s direction.
So great about the Snork!
Hold tight, darlin. Send your mom my love.
Cali, I’m so sorry about your Mum. That’s really crap.
As for the snork- geepers, not long to go now.
xx
J
I’m so sorry for your mom. That totally sucks.
But Snork! He’s going to be a looker! I’ve read that hollywood stars have large noggins…he’s going to be a hearthrob hottie!
holy crap… brutal. i’m so sorry for your mom.
but the snork is gorgeous… love the face shot… wow big boy!
I am so sorry to hear about your Mom’s job situation….that is total shit and there are no words. I hope that the universe has something good planned for her, and she needs to be available for it…..
As for the Snork…….those pics are extra precious for me. I had to have an emergency C-section at exactly 32 weeks, so when you wrote that your next scan was at 32 weeks, I sorta held my breath waiting for great news. The Snork looks so fabulous, and so healthy! One of my boys had nearly stopped growing (thus the emergency exit) and his twin was also growing very slowly, so when they were born at 32 weeks, they weighed only 2lbs 8oz and 3lbs 14 oz. So, I can’t tell you how thrilled I am to read that the Snork is already waaaaay past that, and moving on full steam ahead! You are going to have a healthy, strong boy! And that foot! Can you say adorable?????
I’m sorry for your mom but is there a chance a new job might come around? Someplace north. In a city perhaps? Where you have great culture, food, public transportation 24 hours a day, snow, the Mets?
Hoping and dreaming.
Tightening the belt is all the rage right now. It’s in fashion to live spare and frugal. At least you will be trendy…. Lots of people are losing their jobs right now…it’s scary, but we all just have to be willing to dig deep, lose our sense of entitlement and do whatever it takes to hold on in this economic storm. It will pass. Things will look up. There will be jobs again someday soon.
I’m sorry your mom lost her job, but now you guys can move back up here to the nooga!!!!! So many people are losing their jobs that way… no notice. Even attorneys are having problems with employment, as your mom is evidence. I hope she can find work sooner than later.
What great news about the snork! Snork is such a cute name. Can we still call him that after he and his head make their grand entrance? Just as a nickname?!
if is bad of me if I sit here hoping beyond hope that your mom gets a job in Utah? PLEASE PLEASE PLEEEEEEEEEASE?
I’m so sorry that your mom got laid off. I hope she got a nice severance package. The upside is that she’ll be able to spend more time with GM during this transition and help get ready for snork.
Love the great news! That itty bitty foot is too cute!
Loosing a job out of nowhere like that has got to be awful. I’m so sorry. I can’t even imagine the amounts of panic, anger ect.
I’m so glad Snork is doing well.
Ugg. So crappy about Mom loosing her job. I’m so sorry. Yeah though for a growing snork. Hang in there, you’re getting very close.
scary isn’t it? I was laid off in August… after my company told us all NO ONE was going to lose a job, we were to busy.
so much for that.. i’m still jobless.. its stinks.
good luck to her… and I’ll pray for you guys
Oh, I am so sorry. My father was laid off (from his job of over 15 years) in January of my senior year of high school, right before my college applications were due. Scary indeed. It all worked out but man was that a rude awakening to becoming a grown-up very fast. I know it will all work out for you guys too, but how horrible is the timing. I’ll be thinking of you and your mom and GM, and of course the snork.
Ok I had to comment again after looking at the Snork. HE IS SO CUTE!
I’m so sorry to hear about your mom’s losing her job.
Glad to hear that Snork is growing well. Sorry for you about that head! LOL about Jeopardy.
Christ.
Thinking of you all.
And in better news, lovely news on the babe. Don’t worry about the head.
What is WRONG with today. I am so very sorry about your mother. That’s horrible news. Very stressful.
Glad the baby’s doing great.
Hugs and cuddles and pets and foot massages and scalp massages for everyone. Thinking of you, sending good vibes in your direction! <3
This post couldn’t be more perfect for me to read at this very moment. j is all wrapped up in work drama about layoffs and not getting raises and I’m like “hello you have a freaking JOB, do you know how many people don’t or are losing their’s?!”. It’s not that he’s not grateful for his job, it’s that he has no perspective on what it’s like NOT to have one, and I hope that God doesn’t try to teach us that lesson in the immediate future. GRR. I want to send him this post so he knows what it’s like to be in that room when that happens.
THEN.
You sooooo make me feel better knowing that Snork and Cletus have matchy-matchy heads.
I don’t know why, I mean we both are going to have to push watermelon heads out of our girly bits and that sounds completely miserable, but I think I’m taking the strength in numbers approach with this one. B was 5 lbs 1 oz at 32 weeks, so we must be on the same growth curve.
Anyway, you came through for me in my moment of dispair over my whiny husband and my child’s insane head and I am just so very thankful for you right now. *hugs*
Shit, Calliope. When it rains….
but thankfully there was some sunshine, too.
Thinking of all of you.
hugs to your mom and hugs to you and and sir snork and GM…
you are all forces to be reckoned with, and despite the tornadoes, NOTHING will keep you down for long…
love you all!
gypsy
hell. shit and fuck. i hope she gets a great job somewhere where you will be publishing snow porn for others. i just can’t imagine you guys getting that news today. how dreadful. can you just have some smooth sailing for effs sake?
Yuck. I’m so sorry to hear that.
What does your mom do? Maybe if you mention it here, your readers [not me, sadly, as I am rather unconnected] can help her with networking to find a new job.
That is a whole lot of ups and downs in a very short time. The very bad thing just plain sucks. Sending lots of positive vibes that things turn around soon. The very good news is awesome indeed – go Snork!
Oh god – your mum losing her job made me feel sick. I’m so sorry you all now have this extra worrying worry on your plate. I know you’ll weather this storm, just like the others, but a bit of clear water wouldn’t go amiss round your way. Much love, especially to the big headed boy! (BB too is large-headed, apparently, so it’s good to know we’ve got great company!)
Shiiiiiiiit, I’m so sorry to hear about that. That really sucks!!!! The others are right though, nothing keeps you women down for long. SIGH. Oh and welcome to the big-bonced club. Lots of love from me too xxxx
Sorry to hear about your mom’s job.
Great news about the snork!
Uuuuugh. As if you guys needed anything else right now. I’m so sorry. But, I must say, DC is lovely in the springtime. And it gets nice and chilly in the winter. Might not give you enough snow to be fully happy, but it’s a good place.
YAY Snork! And Jen will tell you position is WAAAAAY more important than size. T did not assume the proper birth position when labor began, and THAT was much more painful than his ginormous head and 9lb 5oz size. So. Attention Snork. Play nice with that noggin of yours.
That’s terrible. I am so sorry.
But now you can move to Portland with me! Hooray!
A big hug to your mom. What timing.
As for Snork sounds about the size of my second daughter around 32 weeks. Don’t buy a lot of newborn sizes – especially anything that says under 7lb
My daughter ended up being 8lb 12 ounces and 21 inches long – so she was in 0-3 month clothes for about a month before she moved rapidly up into bigger sizes. And she had a big ol’ noggin’ too.
I know you are stressing but don’t forget to take care of yourself during this last bit of pregnancy.
Cali – I’ve been gone for a very long time. Hiding from infertility, blogging and the IVP. Just started putting my toe back in the water in the last couple weeks. Anyway, I’ve got a lot of catching up to do, but started with your most recent post and just wanted to say SHIT I’m so sorry about your Mom. This economy is so crazy, and it is so scary, and I wish your family wasn’t dealing with this. Sending lots of love. And so grateful for good Snork news. xo missed you
oh – NO, what awful news about your mom. I am sorry to hear it. I hope that she was given some decent severance?
It does truly seem like the winds of change are blowing (well, blustering) through your home life – hang on! Sending good vibes out to all of you.
Great news about Snork though, I’m so happy for you he’s looking so good!
What a day filled with conflicting emotions! Job shit for your Mother. Entering a new phase in life for your GM. And viewing the future of your family for you. I wouldn’t know how to feel!
So sorry for all the bad stuff. So happy for the good. And praying that all turns out well.
Hugs to you.
Shit. I’m so sorry. I’m beaming all my good mojo at your mom right now, and am hoping that there is a silver – golden – platinum lining to all of this that is just waiting to reveal itself.
I’m so sorry to hear that. Looks like we are all stuck in the same boat. I’m still believing that everything will be good eventually. Things will get better again!
I’m really sorry about your mum’s job. I hope she gets decent severance.
Happy to see your Snork news!
Just read this. So sorry about Mother’s job; I’m with the others on severence. It definitely seems awful but sometimes these things are a blessing in disguise?
btw, Sol was 5 pounds 2 oz at birth (37 wks, 5 days), so WOW. Sounds like you grow ‘em big!
Damn, that sucks about your mom’s job! I hope this is bad news that turns out to be a blessing. Move near me. Then I can babysit for Snork!
I’m so sorry about your perfect storm. At least one part of the trifecta should bring your joy. You’re in my prayers!
So sorry about your mom, that truly sucks! – I hope she at least gets a good severance package. Hopefully one door closes/another opens will find her fast.
Snork- looks adorable already, and really cute little tootsies!! I’m glad he is doing well.
it seems to me more jobs are using the economy as a excuse to get rid f full time people and bring in part timers so they dont have to pay insurance nor benfits..
many hugs to your mom and to you all..
seems like when it rains it fucking poars anymore
sends love…..
oh my look at the snorks right eye looks like its open and hes lookinga t you :0)
too cute
farking economy!
A part of me wonders if she has anything in writing that gave her the impression that her job was secure? That could be used for something?
Aw, fuck, man. It just sucks. I’m so sorry.
I am so so sorry about your mom’s job, but very glad the baby looks good.
So sorry about your Mom’s job.
I think my company is in a hiring freeze as well.
Hi– I support what another said…. let us know what your mom does, and more details about what she (and your family) is looking for. All of us have an inside view as to how fabulous a human being she is, and may be able to help in some way. For example….. I work in HR…. if she needs someone to review her resume, I’m happy to do so (though you write so beautifully she already has a fine editor!)
how are you? i’m worried.
Ugh- so sorry! That is crummy news about your Mother. So glad Snork is doing fine though.
My God. One of these days, this economy has to turn around. It can’t get worse forever. I’m so sorry for your mom.
But congrats on your darling boy. So big and healthy!
I’ll be thinking about you all.
Oh, no! I am so sorry about your mom’s job! Sending all the good mojo I can…
What great news that Snork is doing so well!
Oh Cali I’m so sorry. What a blow. I do hope your mum finds something soon and that this isn’t too hard for her.
Holy crap! I’m so sorry about your mom’s job. This totally sucks. I hope she finds something soon. Talk about crappy timing.
How ’bout a little belly rub for Snork, though? From me to him! So glad he is doing well.