Comments on: Never a good time for bad news.

By: MissedConceptions

MissedConceptions — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 15:01:49 +0000

I am so sorry to hear this. It is weird to be pregnant and then have to deal with death — all very “circle of life”-y. My dad died 5 days after Baby S was born, and it was very hard not to let it rob me of my happiness over Baby S’s arrival. Take some time each day, even if only a few minutes, to enjoy and truly be happy for your pregnancy and the life within you.

By: niobe

niobe — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 19:29:51 +0000

I’m so, so sorry.

By: Faith

Faith — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 14:51:54 +0000

(((((((((((hugs)))))))))) so sorry to hear the distressing news. You’re all in my prayers.

By: sarah

sarah — Sun, 05 Oct 2008 20:47:20 +0000

my GM had alzheimers when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. They did a double masectomy a few days later. Frankly, it was a horrible horrible thing but I don’t think at that point she was aware of it – which in the end was a bit of a blessing. thinking of you and your family.

By: k77

k77 — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 07:26:49 +0000

I’m sorry.

By: sara

sara — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 20:12:38 +0000

I’m sending you all lots of love.

By: Salome

Salome — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 15:10:36 +0000

I’m sorry GM is in such a bad way. I can understand your feelings of guilt. Your job is to take care of GM and you feel like you failed in your obligation to her but that’s not at all the case. Nothing would have changed if you took her to the dermatologist the instant you first noticed the thing.
My MIL has been battling skin cancer for years. She’s an avid boater/sunbather and she never wore sunscreen up to the time the first melanoma was discovered on her face about eight years ago. She’s considerably younger than your GM and she chose to treat it aggressively, which is the correct decision for her.
But my MIL understands what is going on and she can take an active role in her treatment. Your GM would be in pain, confused and miserable if she had the type of aggressive surgery and follow-up chemotherapy that would be necessary to treat it. Even if everything medically possible was done to treat this particular cancer it sounds like she probably has other cancers that have yet to be discovered.
You and your mom will discuss this but I think your GM’s quality of life will be much better if you take a hands-off approach and let nature take its course. Pain medication if and when it is needed and arranging hospice care would be the way I’d go if she were my GM.
These decisions are very hard. I went through signing a DNR order for my father who had Alzheimers and liver cancer. It was the right thing to do but I still feel sorry that I had to make that choice. Alzheimers and cancer are horrible. They’re the greatest enemies of what should be a peaceful and enjoyable old age.
I will be thinking of you and GM and praying for the best possible outcome.

By: Amanda

Amanda — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 15:01:51 +0000

I am so sorry. So very sorry. You’re all in my thoughts and prayers.

By: Cori

Cori — Fri, 03 Oct 2008 14:46:45 +0000

Oh dear. Will pray foryour family.